Is Your Difficult Conversation Worth Having?

In this video I’ll be helping you decide whether you should go ahead and have that difficult conversation or whether it’s a conversation you should put to bed.

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Please leave any comments or questions in the box below, I read every single one and will respond swiftly!

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  • Ken Annett

    five things to focus on in two and a half minutes – I am impressed!!

    • admin

      Hi Ken – thanks for the feedback.

      Short and to the point, that’s the goal anyway. I intend to put together a whole series of short videos full of useful tips that people can quickly watch and take away the key points without having to sit through minutes of preamble and promotion.

      If you have any suggestions on content you’d like to see, do let me know.

      Thanks again

      Aled

  • Anonymous

    Hi Ken – thanks for the feedback.

    Short and to the point, that’s the goal anyway. I intend to put together a whole series of short videos full of useful tips that people can quickly watch and take away the key points without having to sit through minutes of preamble and promotion.

    If you have any suggestions on content you’d like to see, do let me know.

    Thanks again

    Aled

  • Pierre jean-louis

    I appreciate your info. It has given me some insight – my dilemma is about the conversation with elder parents who want to stay in control but cannot see they are losing control – is the emotional reaction to truth worth it

    • Anonymous

      Thanks for your comment Pierre.

      I think you’ve raised one of the difficult conversations we all at some point might face and I think in western culture a real taboo. Some of the most challenging conversations are the ones we have with the people we care about most, which makes them that more difficult.

      I think if I had to have this kind of conversation I’d start with thinking about specific incidents that lead me to the conclusion that I’ve formed, namely that they might be losing their capacity to make informed decisions about their future. I’m guessing that’s what you meant when you said ‘losing control’, that right? I’d want to share these with them and invite their reaction, do they see them in the same way or different?

      From there I’d want to think through the implications for them and me if we didn’t have this conversation and further, took action to address my concerns. I’d also want to explore this with them, for example, if my observations and assumptions were true what then.

      I’d also reflect on how I’m feeling about this and also how I’m feeling about the dilemma I find myself in because I’d want to share this dilemma with them. On the one hand I want to raise these difficult issues because I care and want to feel reassured that they/we have made informed decisions about the future and on the other hand worried about raising it because of how they might react to what I have to say.

      So what would be important to me is that I am able to share my concerns with them and listen to their reaction.

      I wouldn’t hypothesise that this conversation would lead to an overnight success and it might take a number of conversations. I think what’s important that when you have the conversation that you a rooted in a place of curiosity and compassion. If you are then you’ll increase the chance of creating an empathic connection and reaching some understanding, which I think would be a productive starting point.

      What do you think?

      I hope there’s something in here that you find helpful.

      Many thanks Pierre

      Aled

  • Gondodm

    The points you raised are quite appropiate. Its an important guide and it places value on time for alternative uses, especially when you juxtapose the three points raised as against not getting involved in the conversation.

    The debate is quite inspirational; hardly found in any text book.

    • Anonymous

      Great to read your feedback, thank you.
      I know from my own experience, when it came to having a difficult conversation with someone I’d either avoid them or rush headlong into the conversation without any awareness or consideration. So having a check-list was and is helpful for me. 
      Not every conversation, it turns out, is worth having.

      I hope you find the other videos of value.

      Thanks
      Aled 

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